Wednesday 31 October 2012

Sniff.



We don’t know where we belong. So we hide. Hide to save ourselves. Save ourselves before it’s too late.
But for most of us it’s too late, already. There’s no place to go. Nobody’s listening.
We’re all in our private traps, clamped in them, and none of us can ever climb out. 
We scratch and claw, but only at the air, only at each other, and for all of it, we never budge an inch. We’re just trying to find our paths. 

But it’s getting dark already and we’ve hopelessly lost our ground. We don’t have anyone to take our hands and show us the way. 
We are the children who were cast away. We are the children who fell from grace.  

·

It was close to midnight when I finally arrived at the party.  I couldn't decide what to wear. I knew I had to wear something that would make me look a part of the foreign crowd.   I finally picked a safe LBD to go with a new pair of stilettos I had bought recently.
At least some of the Frenchmen would notice my legs in this miniscule black dress, I thought wryly. 
I reached the entrance. A tall redhead in a beautiful gold dress threw out an arm with a long cigarette attached to the end of it. It hit me in the chest and I smelt, rather than felt the burn in my silk dress. She turned around with an apology on her lips. Then she realized she had hit an outsider and muttered something like "You shouldn’t stand so close."
I wanted to make a devastating reply but couldn’t find the words. Her entire group seemed to be sniggering at me. I turned sharply and walked away. The close press of people made a black shield around the entrance. I was tempted to escape, but the arrogance of those long straight backs made me determined to stay, to breach their defenses, and make them notice me- somehow.
People were packed into every corner, flowing forward onto the bar. Men and women stood back to back, knees touching, elbows knotted, heads moving back and forth as they talked.
Music thrust its way through the burr of conversation plugging holes in it with its steady pulse. Tongues and hips moved ceaselessly. The place stank of smoke, sweat and the smell of new leather shoes.
Pretty soon after a few shots of neat Jack, I found myself roped into a group just like everyone else. The pale faces looked at me with glassy, unreal gleeful eyes and thrust a bowl of some white powdery stuff in my face.
“Go on then, have some! It’s really good stuff!”
Not wanting to be ousted, I sniffed some. It hit me hard. I took some more shot my hands up in the air and screamed happily. Everyone cheered.
The conversation moved back and forth between them, sometimes a third or fourth voice screeching in. After each sentence, everyone laughed hysterically. The bowl kept going around too. Five minutes later or maybe it was half an hour, I had laughed so much that my mouth felt stretched and tense. My head felt like a heavy rock. I could feel twin lines forming, linking my mouth to my nose. Everyone in the group had them. I wondered whether it had something to do with the muscles that were used in speaking French.
One story followed another about people who could have been the names of streets for all I knew. In a little while I could no longer tell whether they were talking about people, books or exotic dishes on a menu. I could add no story of my own to the stream of anecdotes that fell in layers upon the conversation, over the laughter that bubbled incessantly beneath it. I remained silent. But nobody seemed to care.
I wanted to breathe in some more of the white stuff. Where was that bowl?
The sudden laughter cut into my reverie. On cue, I joined in.
Found it! I inhaled some more. My head spun with unintelligible happiness. The rush was exhilarating. Lifting. Invigorating. Stimulating. I took some more.
I needed to sleep, but the dress was too itchy. Water. I was thirsty. No water.
I felt myself suddenly start to down in an endless black abyss.

·

A little girl, playing alone with her dolls, her father comes home after a long day at work-
“Daddy!”
“Go away, not now, child. Is your mother home yet?”
“No.”
“Hah. Must be a special assignment with the boss again. That whor- Huh? Stop crying girl. I need some peace in this house. SHUT UP.”
·

A little girl, chest puffed proud with a beautiful self-made drawing in her hands, runs to show it to her mother who just came home.
“What are you doing at home? Shouldn’t you be at Aunty Leela’s house?”
“Maa?” she said, confused.
“I’m busy with this man now. Important work. Office. Go away and play with your dolls and don’t bother me again. Oof. Yeh ladki bhi na. Such a headache.”
The girl looks at the blurry shape of her mother and the stranger as they disappear into the bedroom with unshed tears in her eyes.
·

A little girl, now not so little, in school trying to catch glimpses of a boy fugitively in the school corridors.
“Stop dreaming bitch. He’s out of your league.” A pretty vixen, whispered in her ear menacingly from behind.
Tripped her purposely, and then walked up to the boy linked her arm with his, and laughed blithely with the rest of the kids around.
The girl gets up slowly, silently fighting the urge to burst into tears.
·

She moved to Paris to study.  The girl is happy. She finally has someone who loves her.  Her world is a better place.
She walks up the stairs of her building, softly humming a happy tune, reaches her apartment door, fishes for the keys in her handbag.
The door opens unexpectedly, with her Pierre, wearing only boxers, in an unmistakable embrace with another man.
The girl is speechless. She walks away.

·

Tonight was my night. I was noticed. I was appreciated. I was loved. The white powder is my miracle.
I need some more. More, every day. Every day. Every night.
That is my savior. That is my happy place.
My entire life I’ve been shunned. Ridiculed. Cast away.
If the white powder can take it all away, I want more of it. More and more till my world is exactly like how I’ve always imagined it to be.
·

The girl was found on the footpath the next morning. Dead, from the overdose. Clothes missing. Money gone. And bereft from the dignity the nameless girl had.

Because all our dreams are gone, and all our hopes have faded.
And as sunlight fails, we’ll watch this world slip away.

Letters to nobody.

Dreams are always crushing when they don't come true. 
But it's the simple dreams like ours that are often the most painful. You know why?
Because they seem so personal, so reasonable, so attainable and achievable.
You're always close enough to touch them fleetingly, but never quite close enough to hold on to them, and that's enough to break your heart. 

I had lost you. The pain ripped me apart. My own words didn't make sense to me, then. Every night, I would hold my hands and legs together in a tight ball in bed, wishing I could disappear to a happy place where there wouldn't be any pain anymore. It almost felt like my entire body was hurting, hurting only because my heart was aching. Its the worst feeling I've ever felt. I just pray that this is something I never need to empathize with someone about. Because its one of the most excruciatingly painful things in the world.
So. After all the tears and hours of wasted thoughts, what was the lesson I learnt?
I learnt, that it's possible to go on. No matter how impossible it seems, it IS possible. And that with time, the grief and pain lessens. It may not go away completely, but after a while it's not so overwhelming anymore. I usually hate clichés but this one really does nail it:

Time heals all wounds.

This time last year,  I was dating and I was happy. What am I now?
A lazy student, a writer, a slacker, a senselessly angry teen, an amateur photographer, I'm just another tool that was screwed in a relationship. I'm all of these.
But,
This is not me just venting out random thoughts. This not me trying to prove my point to the world. This definitely isn't me trying to get back what I can't.
This is me taking control from you, from the misery, from the God forsaken love which fades away, from the shit that's inevitable, from everything that I was made to believe in. This is me taking back control of my life.
I've come out of it, stronger than how you left me. And I'm proud.
I don't know whether love changes but people change. Circumstances change. You changed, and eventually I did too.
After you cruelly pushed me away I thought I'd never be able to forgive you for the kind of pain you caused me. But slowly, I found myself thinking about you and our whole relationship as an inconsequential part of my past. I don't know how it happened, but it did. And it felt good. And yes, I gradually found myself, forgiving and forgetting you. I wondered if that was how forgiveness budded, not with the fanfare of epiphany, but with pain gathering its things, packing up, and slipping away unannounced in the middle of the night.
Our story has three parts: a beginning, a middle, and an end. And though this is the way all stories unfold, sometimes I still can't believe that ours didn't go on forever. But I guess that's the way it was meant to be. We can't alter or cover up whatever's already happened. But we can put it behind us and move on, and that's what I did. For me, like a dull wallpaper, You and I and blended into the background. And that, I can assure you, was the most liberating feeling ever.